Haters Gonna Hate

I’ve always had a love / hate relationship with social media. Lately, as I am sure you would all agree, it’s getting more and more toxic.  Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  They can form that opinion based on minimal to no facts or years and years worth of research. However, more and more, I see people living in the moment, reacting immediately and posting for all their “friends” to see before having a chance to evaluate how this may affect others.

But, who am I to judge?

You clearly can’t please everyone and why the heck would you want to?

And while we can’t please everyone, why is it necessary to bring more hate, hurt and sadness into the world? Isn’t there already enough of that?

Speaking of pleasing everyone, I highly suggest reading 16 Truths You Learn After Realizing You Don’t Have to Please Everyone. I think I need to start reading this every morning before I start my day.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t share your opinions on religion, politics, sexuality, gun control, lifestyle, etc. … If I was, then I would be quite the hypocrite sitting here saying what you should and shouldn’t do.  It’s just challenging for me to wrap my head around why people feel the need to say (or post) some of the things that they do.

No clue what I am referencing? Congratulations – I wish I was right there with you, but every where I look this happens every-single-day.  Even if I step away from social media, it’s on the television, it appears in an email, it comes up in conversation… it’s becoming (or already is) the way of the world.

If you marched on Saturday you were doing something right. If you marched on Saturday you were doing something wrong.  If you didn’t march on Saturday you were doing something right.  If you didn’t march on Saturday you were doing something wrong.  If you didn’t let people know why you marched people would form an opinion.  If you let people know why you marched people would form an opinion.  Likewise, if you let them know why you didn’t march…. You get the point.

If you can find a way to be happy and it’s not at the expense of others, then it sounds like you’re doing something right.  Now, maybe that’s just my opinion, but I would hope that most would agree.  The more that I can surround myself with people who make me happy the better.  Those are the people that I feel compelled to please.  Not everyone. The ones that matter the most.  When they’re happy, I’m happy. And when I’m happy, maybe even the haters are happy.  Hater stop hatin’.